Teach your children to recognize their own successes.  Daily life holds lots of challenges -- from asking another child to play at recess to finishing a project on time.  A task that is easy for one child can present a significant hurdle for another.  By appreciating children's efforts to surmount their personal hurdles, parents demonstrate respsect and acceptance -- and that's how children learn to accept and respect themselves!  HINT: Success and perfection are not the same thing!  Part of building resilience and self-esteem is teaching chidlren to feel pride in progress toward a goal rather than withholding celebration until they achieve perfection.