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You may want to start by assessing the cause of your daughter's emotions. Some children are more sensitive than others. Sensitivity is a temperamental trait. Temperamental traits are neither "good" nor "bad" and feelings are neither "right" nor "wrong". Perhaps some other factors are exacerbating her emotions. Is she overscheduled? Is she going to bed too late and getting up too early? Is she getting enough sleep? How are her eating habits?
Start with an assessment and look for ways to decrease triggers for anxiety and other emotions that she may be feeling. From there you can help by empathizing.
You can empathize by still enforcing your limits. When your daughter knows that it is okay to feel strong feelings and learns to manage them, this increases her self-esteem, which can create more positive feelings. In addition, high self-esteem will really help as she heads into puberty.
One more thing: teach and model that it is okay to make mistakes and point out the learning experiences that come out of them. For example, when your daughter forgets something for school, the learning experience can be to lay it out the night before. Do the same with your own mistakes: "I misplaced my keys which made me late. I can learn from that mistake by creating a home for my keys."
