Bullying

Resources: Websites, Tools & Books

Websites

• Bullying Statistics from the National Institute of Child Health & Human Development.
  
  
• Stop Bullying Now! is a campaign developed by the Health Resources & Services Administration in partnership with more than 70 health, safety, education, and faith-based organizations. The website has both children’s and adults’ sections, and offers animated scenarios, public service announcements, and resources for educators, health and safety professionals, parents, children, and the general public.  Federal Partner: Health Resources and Services Administration, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
  
  
• Fact sheets on Bullying for Teens offers advice on preventing bullying from happening to you or somebody else.   
  
  
• Preventing Bullying examines bullying and some of its effects; discusses ways schools are trying to prevent it; shows how peers can discourage bullying; and identifies other strategies experts are exploring.

• Bully Proofing Youth. Jim Bisensius teaches kids what to do when someone picks on them.

• Department of Health and Human Services’ Online Bullying Courses and other information related to bullying.

• Certificate of Awesome Achievement.  It's been shown time and again that appreciating what children do right, rather than focusing on correcting what's wrong, is the most effective way to support their growth.  Use these certificates to provide visible recognition for your children's achievements.            
  
  HINT: don't just wait for those giant accomplishments -- like straight A's or 100% on a test.  Reinforce your children's efforts.  For some children, having the courage to pick up the phone and order a pizza is a great step forward in their social confidence.  That's cause for celebration!  Maybe it's being assertive with a problem peer; maybe it's starting s school project two weeks ahead of time rather than waiting until the night before it's due.  Each of these represents important growth for your child.  Being able to appreciate the many achievements that make up an ultimate large success is one key to effective parenting.
  
  
• Certificate of Grand Accomplishment.  It's been shown time and again that appreciating what children do right, rather than focusing on correcting what's wrong, is the most effective way to support their growth.  Use these certificates to provide visible recognition for your children's achievements.            
  
  HINT: don't just wait for those giant accomplishments -- like straight A's or 100% on a test.  Reinforce your children's efforts.  For some children, having the courage to pick up the phone and order a pizza is a great step forward in their social confidence.  That's cause for celebration!  Maybe it's being assertive with a problem peer; maybe it's starting s school project two weeks ahead of time rather than waiting until the night before it's due.  Each of these represents important growth for your child.  Being able to appreciate the many achievements that make up an ultimate large success is one key to effective parenting.
  
  
• Great Successes.  Teach your children to recognize their own successes.  Daily life holds lots of challenges -- from asking another child to play at recess to finishing a project on time.  A task that is easy for one child can present a significant hurdle for another.  By appreciating children's efforts to surmount their personal hurdles, parents demonstrate respect and acceptance -- and that's how children learn to accept and respect themselves!    
  
  HINT: Success and perfection are not the same thing!  Part of building resilience and self esteem is teaching children to feel pride in progress toward a goal rather than withholding celebration until perfection is achieved.
  
  
• My Action Plan.  My Action Plan shows your child how to set a goal and make a plan to achieve it.  Use this tool together with My Goal Tracker, a tool to help your child follow through on her Action Steps so that she can reach her goal.
  
  Moving from vision to accomplishment requires a set of skills that parents can teach.  Use My Action Plan to show your child how to put a goal into words and how to think through the Action Steps he’ll have to take in order to reach that goal.  Guide the process by being curious.  Ask questions like, “What do you think you’ll have to do to make that happen?” and “How often (or how many times) do you think you’ll need to do that?”
  
  HINT: Start small!  Use this tool with early elementary age children on goals that they can achieve quickly.  They’ll gain a strong feeling of competence and of their ability to decide what they want – and go after it.
  
  
• My Goal Tracker.  Self-esteem is directly connected to achievement.  That’s great news, because you can teach your children the skills to name their goals and reach them.  My Goal Tracker is designed to allow children to monitor their own progress on the Actions Steps that lead to achieving their goals.              
  
  HINT: Celebrate success!  Consider going shopping for the stickers of your child’s choice to use on the Goal Tracker.  (Try the scrapbooking section of your favorite crafts store.)  Make sure to share the pride and delight you feel as your child takes steps towards reaching a goal.  Having their efforts recognized and genuinely appreciated is a reward in itself.
   
  

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